If you live in North America or Western Europe, then online or mail-order dating might not seem too attractive, but what if you’re a Mexican woman looking to become a bride? For many women in Mexico – as well as many other countries – there aren’t a lot of opportunities to socialize outside of their local geography.
With so much of Latin America living at or near poverty levels, Latin brides often look to online dating sites and mail order bride organizations as the only option to find a life better outside of their home town. This translates into opportunity for men interested in foreign brides.
Why would a man be interested in these types of women? Is it only “desperate” guys that can’t find romance through other, more traditional means? Unfortunately, the whole “mail order brides” industry lives under a cloud tinged by impropriety. There have been countless newspaper and television stories of seedy and bad-intentioned men, usually from the U.S., looking to “buy” a woman whom they can “own” as their subservient slave and housekeeper.
For ladies looking to better themselves, or to move beyond the opportunities otherwise available to them, websites and organizations that match foreign women to men can be the ticket to a whole new, different, bigger, and better life. But again, there are two sides to the coin. For every ill-intentioned man, there are women who will do or say anything in order to get themselves to a Western country, and hopefully along with it, their perception of a Western lifestyle that includes shopping malls, hair stylists, and all the amenities of wealthy modern society.
As such, it is imperative for both sides to really establish good communication before making any kind of jump or commitment. What happens when someone goes ahead and moves or marries in order to fulfill their dreams, whatever they might be, only to find things aren’t like they imagined? Or worse, that they’ve found themselves in a situation that is untenable, but for which they can no longer back out of anymore?
By getting to know each other, beyond just the brief biographies entered online, there can be a better sense of what is expected, what each has in mind and what their expectations are.
Mexican brides, or for that matter any mail-order brides, are first and foremost women who should be treated with respect and dignity. Similarly, the men should not be treated as “meal tickets” or simply the means to getting a green card or foreign residency status. As long as both are clear about what the other partner expects, then the chances for long-term romance, and happy, healthy relationships are very high.