You’ve set your heart on a Mexican Bride, found a few potential mail-order brides online that make your blood pressure rise, have made contact online through the services of Amo Latina, or Amor.com, and now spend your days imagining what life will be like betrothed to your sweetheart once she moves from Mexico as your wife.
For many men, this vision is essentially what their life is today, with the addition of their new partner: same routines, same activities, simply ‘improved’ with someone to ‘share’ them with, someone to prepare their meals, do their laundry, clean up afterwards, and of course, provide ample marital ‘duties’.
One common and significant reason so many men seek Mexican and other Latin American mail-order brides is that they know these women tend to be subservient, family oriented, and have been brought up in a culture where a bride’s place is beside her husband, deferring to him in all matters, allowing him to dictate their activities, schedule, and overall lifestyle.
Unfortunately, these women have needs of their own, especially those who opt to marry foreign men and relocate. One of the most important considerations that men must take into account is cultural, in particular the often-vast cultural differences. This is most pronounced when a Mexican women marries an American man and relocates to America.
First, realize that these women have visions of their own; foreign women, and in some cases even more so for those raised in Central or South America, have been raised with a stereotypical image of “Westerners”, and especially Americans. Regardless of the reality, many Latina’s believe all Americans are wealthy, self-absorbed, and looking only for someone to have sex with, raise their children, and hang on their arms to show off.
More importantly, once separated from their family and environment, they become dependent on their husband for nearly everything. And the single most common cause of failure in mail order bride relationships stems from the man being unprepared to provide enough comfort and security for their newly-uprooted partner.
Understanding that this woman will have left virtually everything familiar, reliable, and secure behind them when they move, it’s imperative that you, as the head of the household and dominant personality in the relationship, make the transition as easy and stress-free as possible.
This comes down to providing some familiarity to someone who has landed in an entirely new and different environment; that in turn provides the security necessary to feel comfortable and make the necessary adjustments.
The best way to accomplish this is to learn, understand, and integrate your new bride’s culture into your household and your relationship. Much of that can be as simple as learning when and what the major Mexican holidays are, the music they are used to and enjoy, the foods they like and are comfortable with, and what they have been brought up to expect in a man, and in a husband.
Learning some Spanish, particularly Mexican dialects, can go a long way to helping your new bride feel more comfortable and secure. Knowing what might be considered ‘strange’ or unusual foods in Mexico are, some basics of their religion, and some history of the country will help you ease your partners adjustment to her new home.
Finding Mexican brides is the easy part. Helping them to become comfortable, confident, and ultimately willing, devoted wives will take some willingness and effort on your part. But the payoff is that you will have a committed, loving wife, and satisfied wife, insuring harmony in your home, and a lasting and more meaningful relationship for both of you!